24 Things I Am Trying To Learn at 24 – A Little LeopardA Little Leopard
24 Things I Am Trying To Learn at 24 – A Little LeopardA Little Leopard

24 Things I Am Trying To Learn at 24 – A Little LeopardA Little Leopard

24 Things I Am Trying To Learn at 24

As I approach my twenty-fifth birthday, I often need reminders that it is okay to be completely and utterly confused by this stage of life. Things like Garance Dore’s letter to her 20-year-old self (seriously beautiful and worth reading its entirety) reassure me that a billion other women have been here before me, and they all got through it in one piece. Heck, I made it through that horrible stage of life knowns as adolescence, so surely I can make it through this, right?

Even Hillary Clinton had this to say about her 20s, in an interview for the very first issue of Lena Dunham’s fab newsletter Lenny (which is also great and you should probably subscribe):

I don’t trust anybody who says that they didn’t have some questions in their 20s. That’s a period of such exploration and often torment in people’s lives.

Regardless of your politics, I think most of us can agree and say to that: “Preach, Hillz.” Millennials are growing up, we’ve got the world and our lives ahead of us, and sometimes it’s exhilarating and sometimes it’s – excuse my French – fucking terrifying.

There are life lessons to be learned, big and small. I turn to the memoirs of the women who came before me – a la Not That Kind of Girl – for reassurance on the big stuff. But sometimes, it’s lists of the little lessons that help me realize oh, hey, maybe I’ve got this life and “adulting” business a little more figured out than I thought I did.

One such list of little lessons comes from Who What Wear co-founder Hillary Kerr, who shares “23 Things I Wish I’d Known at 23.”  I agree with many of them, still have to learn/apply some of them, and some are unique to Hillary (see: #6). I’ve shared five of my favorites from Hillary’s list below, with one additional of my own added:

  1. You can be smart and like fashion. Duh.
  2. You teach people how to treat you.
  3. Be your own advocate.
  4. Happiness is having champagne in the house. 
  5. Comparison is the death of happiness.
  6. And my own, to use as kind of a mantra heading into my 25th year: “It’s gonna take awhile. It’s normal to take awhile. You just gotta fight your way through.” (Ira Glass said that, and he seems like a pretty smart dude.)

It’ll work out, I know it will – and not to get all High School Musical on you, but we’re all in this together. Being a twentysomething is a wild ride. We need all the help we can get, yeah?